White men have privilege. White women have slightly less privilege. Asian men have almost as much and Asian women just a little less. Black men have more than black women, Hispanics less than both. Native American’s don’t even get rated.
No one argues with this “pyramid”. Even wealthy POC face discrimination on a fairly regular if not daily basis. Most people understand that, and many are working to try to find solutions. You know what isn’t a solution? Treating those people working for change as enemies, calling them names, telling them to “check their privilege” and saying you don’t need to “check your attitude.” Yes, actually you do. Somewhere along the line people have stopped communicating with each other and just started screaming and insulting. What happens when you do this is simple. No one listens, they get defensive and you create enemies where there didn’t exist any before or who might have been easily talked over to your viewpoint with reason instead of hate.
The battle of the sexes is now the battle of everyone against Caucasians. Where once women united in a fight for equal rights, women are now telling each other that we are not equal. That White women don’t get it, have never been oppressed, were never considered property, were never sold as slaves by their families, and whose virginity didn’t go to the highest bidder without them having any say at all. (In case you missed the sarcasm, that IS our history) The assumption is that if you are white you have never dealt with racism, never been discriminated against and don’t understand struggle. Where we are constantly told “You don’t know what we have been through, you can’t possibly understand it.” It is assumed that everyone else knows exactly what we have been through, and of course they can understand it because it doesn’t matter.
White males have privilege over all. Do you understand that that means that they NEVER hear the end of it? Everywhere they go, everywhere they look someone somewhere is telling them that they need to be less oblivious, be more sensitive, pay better attention, and change how they think. They are bombarded with the message that they are horrible evil people who shouldn’t exist, and just WAIT until POC are in the position of power, because then they will teach the whites a lesson. Guess history hasn’t taught anyone a damn thing has it? The slaves that were freed and chose to return to Africa, do you know what they did when they landed? They turned around and enslaved the indigenous population. Ask them how well that worked when they had the power. How many women and children were gunned down on a beach in an hour during the revolution. Power in any groups hands exclusively or close too is a bad thing. We need to stop looking for who can be on top and find ways to share.
When are we going to learn that how we treat each other matters. That we need to be colour blind. It is a bloody requirement if we ever hope to find a common ground. Colour blind doesn’t mean culture blind though. We should still embrace our history, our cultures and our differences. We just shouldn’t allow colour to be a difference that leads us to judge, form unfounded opinions or to hurt people out of callousness. Empathy needs to be a buzz word while apathy takes a very long hike. We are living in a world where individuals are becoming less and less concerned with anyone not them. This is a problem because as we become more apathetic to anyone else’s lives, we lose what makes us human. Apathy is a choice, choose to care.